Monday, August 1, 2011

Seeking Comfort in the Comfortable

I want to thank each and every one of you who left a comment, sent an email, text, tweet, smoke signal or otherwise when you saw the post on Grayce (pr. Graycee for those who asked) last week.  Your kind words have genuinely helped ease our pain.

I managed to leave the house a couple times in the past several days for dinner with close friends.  Confession:  leaving my sweats and blanket behind was no easy feat.  Comfort is key these days, so prepare to see some hot mess up here on the blog.  I don't know about you, but whenever anything happens that rattles me to the core I subconsciously reach for things that make me feel safe.  Suddenly I'm surrounded by dark chocolate, jalapenos, bacon, fringe, blanket, soft old t-shirts and Current/Elliott denim.  Who's with me?  When the Chef coerced me out of the house yesterday afternoon I found myself closet diving and emerging with my fab Minnetonka boots that had somehow been left in the dust.  Silver lining, I guess.

Speaking of silver lining:  last night the bar was quiet at the Chef's place so I asked if my friend and I could watch the Bachelorette Men Tell All.  I immediately start ripping on Ryan P and lo and behold one of the bartenders knows him.  JACKPOT!! Fact finding mission commences...
~Outfit details:  Tank Farm T-Shirt, Current/Elliott Shorts, Old Stud Handmade Belt, 
Anthro Sunglasses, Free People Fringe Legwarmers (in 90 degrees), Minnetonka Boots c/o Langston's~
Dug from the abyss known as my arsenal of t-shirts, this Tankfarm ration holds many a fond memory.
Gorgeous yellow and turquoise friendship bracelets from the amazingly talented
Rosa @ Rosa loves DC.  They've been glued to my wrist since I opened the package last week.
Talk to me.  Fringe leg warmers inside fringe boots.  In August. 
Almost as good as a visit from Mom.
Not sure why, just like this one.  Blame it on the fringe blowing in the breeze.

As it is when someone passes away, all the days go by in a haze.  It's like the mind knows what happened but the heart can't quite accept it, and so begins the dipping of the toe into the waters of grief until we're fully submerged and can embrace it.  This is the worst.  You are all totally right--our pets are our family and when something tragic happens to them it is okay and normal to experience a deep level of sadness.  Thanks for jumping in the boat with us.  Sharing here with all of you and receiving such kind responses brought a lot of comfort to both me and the Chef, and we are very grateful to you.  Grayce was our top girl and we'll never stop missing her.  It's just not the same with out her. 

I hope you'll bear with me if my posts aren't as regular as usual for the next while.  xo ~Carrie

49 comments:

agnes said...

superbe tenue, et je trouve tes photos magnifiques, j'aime beaucoup ton tee

Taylor said...

I am so sorry about your cat, Carrie! It sucks so much. Death definitely does shake you to the core, I have dealt with it a lot lately, and my bunny that I had for 2 years died a while ago also... it was one of the hardest things.

On another note, I have those same shorts in white and they are definitely my go-to "comfort" shorts.

Ashley said...

*Hugs*

Bacon definitely is a comforting food though, whenever I'm feeling bad I always find myself reaching for bacon too. And Current/Elliott jeans! Hm, we should do a study on comfort-items... wonder how many share the same as us?

-Ashley
http://breakfastatsaks.blogspot.com

Josie said...

Carrie, I'm glad to hear that you're doing a bit better. It's definitely a tragedy and I hope that you're still recovering okay. If it helps, you look phenomenal. I'd be comforted by those Current/Elliot shorts as well, if I could pull them off like you.
xo Josie

Dancing Branflake said...

Getting out of the sweats is the hard part. Love to you and your chef.

Indie.Tea said...

Its good that you are getting out of the house - change of scenery and getting your mind off things.
Hope you and the chef are holding up...

Judy C said...

Welcome back. Life indeed goes on but sometimes just be inches. And soon enough you'll just cry inside. I seem to have lost so many people and beloved animals that I take longer to get over it. But it'll come. It always does.

RosaLovesDC said...

Getting out of the house is good, I know the pain is still there (I mean, I hold the tears every time I think about your cat) but I am sure it really helps to be surrounded by friends and Chef. Thinking of you lady... Thanks for the shout-out on the post too, you are super sweet.

Danielle (elleinadspir) said...

I bet gracey would have loved that fringe. I know mine would have been chasing me around all day!

17 Perth said...

Glad you are surrounding yourself with all things cozy.
: ) Hope each day gets a little better, even though I know it will be never be the same without her.

On another note, I love this outfit....

Daisy said...

sounds like you are hanging in as best you can. lots of love and fringe and blankets - Daisy

Closet Fashionista said...

Loving those boots! And that is so funny that a bartender knew one of the guys on the show!
And you guys will get through this! I know its going to be very sad for a long time but then you'll just be able to remember happy memories! :)
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Micah said...

Let me know if you find someone who knows Chris D. He's at the top of my wishlist right now :)

Tanvi said...

That is comfort well come ... Love the shorts!!!

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Corks + Caftans said...

And the uniform carries on from coast to coast. Hang in there, you look gorgeous and since this is all I'm wearing these days, totally stylish ;) Cutoffs rain down upon me!

I kid!

Glad you're emerging.

xx
C

Taylor said...

First of all you LOOK BEYOND!! This is a ME outfit...we were texting a couple weeks ago and I was wearing an outfit jsut like this, trade boots for Nike dunks.

Secondly, it will get better, promise. And take your time relaxing and healing you'll appricate everythign more if you do it on your own time!

xo-T

Val said...

Hugs about your cat.....Those fringe boots make me happy!! Really Happy!

Lori said...

I will bear with you sweetie ~ don't they just grab ahold of our hearts and squeeze so tight. Loving the fringe but in 90 degree weather ~ you crazy girl. Hugs xo

LyddieGal said...

With your accessorizing, you can make a tee and cutoffs look amazing. No one would ever suspect you were not on your styling a-game.


Chic on the Cheap

Lily said...

So sorry about Grayce :( You look amazing though...loving the boots & bracelets !

xxLily
goldandgray.com

Erika @ ~TiptoeButterfly~ said...

wth Carrie - we'll all be awaiting ur grand return - chill and relax and DO Carrie - and if that means taking blanket with u and wearing ur toka's in the middle of the summer - GO FOR IT - u think i give a cr*p anyone about stuff - u got real things going on - we'll be here loven' n waiting for u *KISSES*

*kiss kiss*
Erika @ ~Tiptoe Butterfly~

Courtney Erin said...

I'm glad that you're starting to feel a bit better - it'll take a long time but it's good to see you out and about and tossing on some fringe!

xoxo ~ Courtney
http://sartorialsidelines.com

Marcie said...

This outfit is so fun! I love it, Carrie. The backdrop reminds me of old town Palm Springs, and in this outfit you'd fit right in!

Did you see the Men Tell All last night? Of course Bentley didn't show up! Man, I wish ABC would have thrown more money at him!!

M

fifi said...

i know it has been difficult loss takes time to ease but it is so good to see you out and posting. your fringe brightened my day!

la petite coquine said...

You are so beautiful, inside and out. Grayce is always going to be a part of your lives and your family, and so will we.

Claire Kiefer said...

You look absolutely adorable in that outfit. You have enviable legs. And I love those boots. Wish I could pull off shorts like that!

I've been thinking about you lots--pets dying is a horrible thing. I'm terrified of when Ignatius goes. :( Glad you've gotten out of the house some, though.

Also: giggling to myself that "jalapenos" is one of your comfort foods. ha! Mine: wine, spaghetti, peaches & cream.

TheChambrayCountess said...

I hope you are feeling a tiny bit better, though it is totally understandable if you don't at all bc losing family is the worst. I am glad you got out of the house, though! And you look SO cute, natch :)

kimbirdy said...

oh honey, take all the time you need and definitely fill your life with the things that bring some comfort, safety, and gentleness. when i lost my mya cat a dear hippy psychologist mentor of mine told me that in a lot of native american cultures they believe our pets remain at our feet in the afterlife, continuing to stay by our side as we move through life. that thought brought me such great comfort and i love the idea of my fur baby still curled up close even if i can't physically see her.

THE ALTERNATIVE WIFE said...

OMG sweetie I am soooo sorry to hear about Grayce! That is such an awful thing to go through. Pets are definitely family and the loss of a pet is really no harder than a loved one. Days really do go by in a haze and as always it will take time to be able to cope with the loss. You'll never ever forget her and you'll always miss her but I hope that you are able to find some peace with it all soon.

xoxo

Taj Acosta said...

Sorry about your kitty honey, I can't imagine :( xo -Taj

FRANKIE HEARTS FASHION said...

Double fringe certainly helps ease the pain....good call on this! Looking fab and thinking of you..xo

Kavery said...

The pain does get a bit dull after some time though I still can't see a pic of Lady without tearing up and it's been almost 5 years now.
Loving the last shot- it's the fringe for sure :)

The Odd and Chic said...

Yay, love boots in summer :-)

Following you - stop by soon!

http://www.oddandchic.com

xxx

Tracy D said...

I hope it's not weird that I've been thinking of you & the Chef...b/c I've been thinking of you & the Chef.

Sonja said...

Oh Carrie, I'm so sorry to hear about Grayce. I can't even imagine :o( Pets are completely a part of a family, that must be so hard. Irregular posts will be completely understandable...I look forward to your posts once you get back into it.

audrey marie said...

sorry to hear are bout your pet :(

and i am right with you on not liking ryan from the show! haha

Kristin said...

Those boots were a definite jackpot find! I hope you're feeling better lady! xoxo

Marcie said...

Wish we were watching the bachelorette together. Worst season ever! Ben is great, she is an idiot, so i guess picking J.P makes sense. Idiot.

Poppies and Sunshine said...

Boots=fabulous! Can't get over the bartender knows Ryan! Haha!
Completely understandable taking a break from blogging. Take as much time as you need because you know we all will always be here :)
I hope you and the chef are doing better.
xo

marjorie rose said...

I'd be doing the same and eating (close to) the same... Take all the time you need.

Polly said...

Whatever you need gorgeous girl. Grief is so personal, you deal with it, in your way and we are here to hold your hand along the way.

ChinkyGirLMeL said...

is there ever a day when you don't look like you stepped out of a magazine. I swear, you are my all time favorite fashionista!

ChinkyGirLMeL said...

P.S. I'm sorry to hear about Grayce. I know how you feel. My dog who's been with the family for about 12 years passed away a few months ago. Up to now I still haven't gotten over her and have no plans of getting a new pet any time soon. Sending you virtual hugs sweetie

Annie said...

Carrie, I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I hope you're doing a little better each day.. xxoo

Victoria said...

Glad to see you got out of the house---it is so frickin hard when you feel like shite but it really does helpl. Your outfit is adorable and you accessorize like no other!
;)
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Ms. Givens said...

You look so free like a bird. LOL
Come enter my Give-Away. :)

Johanna said...

I'm sorry about your cat. That's tough. My pooch was my first first baby...thinking of you!

And...though grieving isn't fun...you sure rocked those Minnetonkas.

Mary Lane said...

It's good to hear that you got out of the house some. Things will get better with time, although it's always a slow, painful process. I wish you all the best in such a difficult time.

Strawberry Freckleface said...

Hot shoes!

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